I love your silences, they are like mine. You are the only being before whom I am not distressed by my own silences. You have a vehement silence, one feels it is charged with essences, it is a strangely alive silence, like a trap open over a well, from which one can hear the secret murmur of the earth itself.
Because sometimes focus is overrated.
"Some interruptions are worth having if they create a space for something to work in the fertile unconscious. Indeed, some distractions are more than useful; they might be more like realizations and can be as informative and multilayered as dreams. They might be where the excitement is."-Hanif Kureishi
The Daily Motivator - Do something positive (via liliezencoach (via eatsloveforbreakfast)
Worrying about what you don’t want will not keep it from happening. In fact, by focusing your worry on what you don’t want you actually give more power and possibility to it.
Wishing for what you do want will not bring it about. Constant wishing can prevent you from getting what you want by taking away time, effort and focus that could be spent on effective action.
The reliable, proven strategy for avoiding what you don’t want and for getting what you do want is the same. Do something positive about it.
The way to get it done is to get busy working on it right now. The way to make a difference is to take focused, purposeful, persistent action
In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.
Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.
Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
Osho (via cwnl)
This is one of the most brilliant pieces of literature I think I have ever read. If you have this kind of love, you are wealthy beyond reason!(via eatsloveforbreakfast)
I want to learn to be better. Like this.
I miss my big big lake lover. He made my double role of playing third wheel to two pairs of parties for 4 days still lovely and more than worth it. I hate how some of the bestest things that happen to me cost sometimes more pain than I can handle.. More of this will be coming with august and everything after soon approaching.
They will never admit it, but what most men wants is not a well behaving, loyal, good family girl, what most men secretly wants is a slut everyone wants to fuck, a sexual playful animal, with the condition that no matter how slutty she is, she will fuck only one man but will make him feel like she could sleep with anyone at any given moment. The moment a man knows that she will forever be loyal to him, he will get bored, men may want a lady in their minds, but what they really crave is a slut. Though they wouldn’t have a slightest idea about how to do deal with a real slut once they get her.(via desirenoir)